Pursuing My Husband's First Love
Life Lessons From Old Friends

Time passed by unnoticed, we lived polygamous lives with joy and mind. It has been two months since the last time Mother arrived, and the crazy advice of Mba Mariam told me to buy a little at Mas Musa. Every day I think hard.

🍀 Flashbacks

"What kind of reality do you dream about Mariam every night?"

"Pulner of guilt."

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Conversations a few years ago back I remember and kuresapi, the beginning of Mas Musa's confession about a long description of his feelings to Mba Mariam. At that time I did not know Mama Okta was Mba Mariam who I was looking for.

Mba Mariam's theory is correct, Mas Musa is strongly bound because of his guilt. Moses himself admitted it, even long before Mba Mariam revealed his theory.

Should I do it intentionally? Isn't what happened to them pure destiny? And even they have to turn the road and cross each other's destiny to be able to reunite in the end. How should I get the feeling of Moses?

Doctors, herbs from Mom and all I've started trying. Probably not yet, hopefully soon I can get pregnant. Mas Musa was also serious about undergoing this pregnancy program with me, Mas Musa more exercise and take care of his food.

It seems that the relationship between Mas Musa and Mba Mariam is getting better, Mba Mariam is busy with her convection business that is starting to come back to life. And we shared the day of togetherness with Mas Musa according to agreement.

I also tried to organize my life, and returned to follow the routine study with mothers in the mosque. I stopped and withdrew right after the marriage of Mas Musa and Mba Mariam, I could not hear the wild issues that were developing at that time. Indeed, some of the issues are those who ridicule Mba Mariam brutally. But among them is also the issue that calls me barren.

Although awkward I have to go back, like Mba Mariam who has risen and dared to face the world and fight the issues that corner it. I should be ashamed, because I was the one who put him in that position.

Tonight Mas Musa comes an old friend, he is a friend of Mas Musa while studying in Hadramaut. I was very enthusiastic, I deliberately prepared some dishes to visit him.

Finally the long-awaited person came too, his name was Arifin. I think he came with his wife and son, but a friend of Moses came alone. For a moment Mas Musa and Mas Arifin hugged each other to let go of longing. And praise each other for their change.

Unlike Mas Musa who re-integrated with Indonesian culture, Mas Arifin still faithfully wore a robe and kept his mustache and beard. In the past Mas Musa also did it, Mas Musa once showed photos when he was still in Yemen first. Now, Mas Musa shaved everything clean.

"Your wife is very beautiful Sa" praised Mas Arifin when Mas Musa introduced me as his wife.

"You could, let's go in!"

Mas Musa invited Mas Arifin in, before I had arranged the table with various dishes so that I was not confused when Mas Arifin came. Next I went in and stole their funny talk from the dining room. I also want to know more about the behavior of Mas Musa when he was young.

I smiled as they laughed, sometimes laughing at Mas Arifin sometimes laughing at Mas Musa. The meeting of the two warmly discussed the struggle they had gone through, and only slightly discussed their respective achievements after graduation. They do not compare or boast about who is more successful.

I can judge that Mas Arifin is a good friend. Without feeling the minute by minute passed, and the hands of the clock had changed numbers. Their conversation grew wider and discussed family.

"Alhamdulillah Sa, my son is 4 now, woman 1 man 3," replied Mas Arifin after Mas Musa asked.

"Well, congratulations, Rif, why weren't you at the acquaintance yesterday?"

"Fear not fair Sa, my wife 3 things." I was surprised to hear that, according to Mas Musa's story, our marriage was only a month after Mas Arifin's wedding. Therefore, I hope to get acquainted and make friends with his wife.

"Three?" mas Musa asked in a tone of disbelief, I sharpened my ears so as not to steal their hearing wrong.

"Yes, three. The first wife of her son aged 2 years, the wife of her two children aged 1 year and the child of her previous husband 7 years, respectively, and the third wife I just married yesterday is pregnant young pray only Sa, but the child of the previous husband is also a 4-year-old woman," said Mas Arifin regarding his family.

"Gee ... !" mas Musa responded, "This is the ideal or how is the Rif?" moses was surprised.

"Over the story, my second and third wives were all widows because her husband died. I did not want to at first but because of one or two things the story of their parents and my parents I have accepted" said Mas Arifin.

"What was your first wife, Rif?" ask Mas Musa again, this question seems to represent my curiosity. That woman, how is her heart now?

"Well, my wife's woman should be angry, not accept, let alone feel that she has given me the perfect boy, had time to go home also to her parents. At that time my efforts were even fireworks. But then again, because of my good intentions my family's intentions were also good, Alloh slowly opened my wife's heart. In addition to my parents' debt in the past, but this marriage is of great value because it helps a widow, uh, two widows mean," said Mas Afwan Long while slightly chuckling.

The desire to befriend Mas Arifin's wife grew stronger, I was so curious about her figure, hearing her story that was so heartened not only received one woman, but two women in her household. If only I had a child like him I would not pursue Mba Mariam because I felt I was enough for Mas Musa.

"Well, that's great of you, Rif. I didn't think you could get to this point, I knew you were just as scared a woman" Mas Musa praised the life and home of his best friend.

"For me this is not an achievement of Sa, this power of Allah gives me more and more responsibility than others, I can only live and be sincere. The wife's prayer also cheapens my fortune, let alone the orphans who became my children, bringing me material and spiritual blessings."

"What about fair things, Rif?" Moses asked again.

"I try Sa, my time is for a week, but if I am in the office my wives are free to come without a schedule, they bring children who may miss. Even sometimes it comes together, yes it is common even though it is initially stiff. There are those who play as brothers, there are those who as sisters, not only my first wife is most respected. Thank God they love each other" said Mas Arifin.

"What about the heart, Rif?" moses asked with a slight lowering of his tone.

"Ah your question is getting harder" said Mas Arifin.

"The heart is also part of the fair right, how do you share it fairly?"

"For love to be shared fairly, I love my three wives and my four children equally, I love them all. But love, huh .. honestly I am not a hypocrite, I still learn to equate love. Because my second and third wives are the choice of my parents, if the first wife even though both betrothed and taaruf but I have noticed it secretly from ancient times. But I try not to show it, so as not to hurt one of them or make one of them big-headed, this is just the secret of my heart that is still in the process of learning."

"Subhannalloh" said Mas Musa.

"This is just a short description of Sa, simply like that, conflict mah every day there but how we solve it. It's a spice to make our lives more colorful and thoughtful."

"Yes Rif, I learned a lot from your story."

"In the beginning I was polygamous many people who berated me Sa, nicknamed the mater, doyanlah, greedy. But over time and as my finances improved and even very well, the diatribe disappeared without my need to respond," the story of Mas Arifin.

"Well, really?"

"Yes, that's how humans are sometimes too quick to judge from the outside, without knowing what it looks like. And when we look like wives of one, two, or three they respect me without daring to comment."

"Hem, yes yes."

"Keep you judging me how this is? I think it's really surprised?"

"He did not expect a Rif, and salute your principles of marriage and your responsibility to the family."

"Yes, I don't believe it myself sometimes. But never mind, Bismillah there's a way. How about yourself?"

"I? Hem ... As you can see Rif, my marriage with Medina has been more than 2 years and still strive for the presence of the baby," replied Mas Musa like less eager, like, the state of our house is still quiet as if to make Mas Musa not confident.

"Patience Sa, the death of a soul mate fortune is set. But, what if you remarry, Sa? We are allowed to have 4. Let's just have a child."

"Actually-"

"Do you want me to find him, Sa?"

Suddenly my feelings became unpleasant, Mas Arifin may be a good friend to Mas Musa, but his presence could have had an impact and a poor understanding for Mas Musa. No. gabe. Sharing with Mba Mariam alone has made my tears almost dry.

My feet came into the room, I didn't want to hear any more of their talk.

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