Hijrahku From Dating
part 54's

My mind was still circling until my head was dizzy, thinking about the novel by Kak Sam that I was almost finished reading. My tears flowed along with the shower in my head. I enjoy my sadness in the bathroom, in my room. A week over 3 days, I finished reading Kak Sam's novel in leisure time. The character's advice and talk in the novel, always ringing in my ear. I'm getting stronger to move out of dating. Although the content of the talk of the character often hit my heart. But I am so grateful to be given the opportunity to repent by Him. One of the things I always remember is :

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"Is it true that his courtship is not okay? Put it according to antum, just look at each other, just hug and just join hands. All that antum thinks it's "only", "only" and "only". And that all means, antum is breaking the rules of God.

First, the rules subject the view to the opposite sex who is not a mahram. Allah says in the letter of An-Nuur verses 30-31 :

"Tell to men of faith,"Must they withhold their views & keep ***********; that is so it is more sacred to them, he said, surely Allah is All-Knowing of what they do. Say to women of faith, "Must they withhold their views, and keep the ***********, and let them not show their adornments, except that which (ordinary) appears to them..."

The passage describes the commandment of subjecting the gaze to us, Muslims all. That means we are forbidden to look at the opposite sex who is not a mahram. Just looking at it is forbidden. Let alone touching, joking, tandem, called..

Second, the rules about touching the opposite sex are not mahram, Prophet SAW. said, "Being stabbed by one of you in the head with an iron needle is better than touching a woman who is not lawful to him". [SV. THABARANI IN AL-KABIR JUZ 20, P. 212, NO. 486]

The hadith illustrates how heavy the punishment in the afterlife will be, if it touches the hands/skin of the opposite sex that is not mahram, which is more painful than the needle of iron stuck in the head! Worse than that! Naa'udzubillaahi min dzaalik.

The Prophet said, "Remember, not a man is alone with a woman but all three are shaytan". [SV. TIRMIDZI JUZ 3, P. 15, YES. 2254, HE SAID: THIS IS THE HADITH OF HASAN SHAHIH GHARIB. FROM 'UMAR BIN KHATHTHAB].

Jama'ah rahiimakumullaah, did you know that if antum chooses courtship, antum actually just follow the invitation of syaithan. He will continue to flirt until man goes to hell. From just looking, chatting, then want to meet. After the meeting, often together. After being alone, it was dark at last. Keep it that way until the antum follows it, which is to commit adultery, so as to make antum go to hell".

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I sobbed in the bathroom, recalling all of the character's lectures. Suddenly, the ringing of my cell phone that I put on the study table sounded really loud. Takes me to shower immediately. I immediately wiped my tears and finished my morning shower. Soon, I was wearing my clothes. I stepped towards my study desk while drying my hair with a towel. I immediately picked up the phone that had been ringing incessantly. It was from Vina.

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"Asalaamu'alaikum, Vin?" my regards.

"Wa'alaikumussalaam, New. To the point, are you really breaking up Roy?" said Vera across from the city of Jogja.

"Yes, why? How do you know that?" my many.

"Vin, Roy that's not a good guy! From now on you stay away from Roy! Don't chat with her again! And say to Roy, I don't want to date anymore! I'm going to hijrah, Vin!" my ketus.

"Lhoh, koq suddenly you told me to stay away from Roy, anyway? Is Roy wrong with you until you hate him so much? Whahuh? Kama wants to hijrah? Don't dream, Nis! At least if there is a guy who deketin, you accept!" ketus Vina's.

"I hate Roy not for no reason, Vin! Because Roy already.." I said to stop.

I was ashamed, ashamed to tell you the truth.

"What old? Heh?" asked Vina, sounding angry.

"But Roy is not a good guy! One day, you know yourself and will hate it! O yes, about hijrah, insyaaAllaah I have established koq. You are my best friend! You should support my good intentions!" I said while sobbing.

"Okay, about Roy, I'll find out for myself. But about hijrah, you are there yourself! You don't have to be a hypocrite, Nis! Don't you want our past? I know all about you!" vina ketus.

"Vin, the courtship is only for us to lose. Shoot me, please!" I asked in a loud voice.

"ah! Been already! Don't talk to me! Do you realize who you are? You're not a pesantren! Don't be so smart!" vina said grumpily.

*tut.

Vina hung up.

"Hello, Vin! Vin? Shoot me first! Hello?" myrag.

I locked the phone screen. My tears are still faithfully dripping. Allaah, strengthen my heart in response to the rejection of my friend.

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Seriate.